.On LOVING and LETTING GO.

Love means letting someone go.

This is Love in any form possible - between lovers, friends, and family.

Before you get other ideas, let me say that this is by no means an encouragement to cut off ties with people who are close to your heart. Please do read on.

This is an attempt to put a new spin on a phrase that has been taken negatively for a long time.

There are times in our lives when everything seems to be changing - when life as we know it takes a sudden turn, and in an instant, the whole world is a very, very different place. Things are not where they should be. Friends have suddenly become strangers and the distance brings a coldness that was not there before. We feel lost and confused. We try to keep up, but the harder we try to hold on, the farther we seem to get left behind.

The more you try to recapture the days of the past, the harder it becomes to face the future. Little by little, you begin to lose yourself.

As people are dynamic, it only follows that relationships are dynamic too. Along with changes within the person come differences in the way we deal with them. We learn, we grow up. It does not necessarily mean that one is more mature than the other... we may just be treading down very different paths, for which we must undergo different forms of training and molding.

Love, therefore, is understanding that dynamism. It is seeing beyond the person as he is now, looking deep inside and seeing his potential to become so much more. Who he is now will definitely not be the same as who he will be ten years from now. Why keep him from becoming that person?

To let people go is to help them reach for their dreams.

Letting people go is encouraging them to spread their wings and soar boldly across skies they have never seen before.

Let him go. Let him discover who he is and what he was born to do. True, there may be times when he has to leave you behind so he can find his own way. Accept that you will not be present in every single scene of his life's story. To keep him tied down to you because you are afraid of losing him is pure, utmost selfishness.

Maybe Love means accepting the fact that the world is a bigger place than your heart. There are places to see, wonders to discover, and lessons to learn. No one person is enough to give all that. God has plans for him more beautiful than you could ever fathom. Maybe Love means letting him be free to see all that beauty for himself, even if it means he may not always be doing it with you.

Few can match the joy that comes with seeing a loved one glowing with the glory of God-given success.

There's no denying that it will hurt. In any relationship where one moves away, it is always harder for the one who stays. The one who moved is living a brand new adventure, while the other has to deal with an environment that brings back memories of a time when things were easier.

But Love always believes.

Love is knowing that what you have is strong enough to bring you back together no matter how far apart you get.

Letting go is not saying, "So this is where our friendship ends, now let us go our separate ways."

Letting go says, "Go ahead and take that step towards your destiny. If you have to go alone for now, so be it. But know that I'm always supporting you, cheering you on, praying for you. Trust that I am here for you, ready to help whenever you might need me."

So let him go. Let him become all that he is and could be. Let his star shine so bright and don't worry about yours. Do what God has called you to do. You have your own destiny - God has plans for you, too. Your time will come.

At the end of the day, your love, your friendship, will always be the one he comes home to.

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Friends, go ahead. Reach for the stars.

I am rooting for you. :)